Top 10 Signs You’re Dating Mr. Or Ms. Wrong
(CBS Charlotte) — So, you found yourself a dream guy/gal and your relationship is perfect! Wait … you just woke up and realized that vision was just a dream … sigh. Okay, so the reality of the situation is … Mr. or Ms. Right is actually Mr. or Ms. Wrong. How do you know for sure if your relationship is doomed? Here are the Top 10 signs:
10. You complain about your significant other to your friends. We know what you’re thinking … “I do that.” We’re not talking about the occasional complain session, we’re thinking more along the lines of constant complaining. If you can’t think of anything positive to say about the relationship, or if you can’t think of a good reason as to why the two of you should be together, chances are it’s already over (you just don’t realize it yet.)
9. You’ve been together for a while, but silence feels awkward. If you and your love interest run out of things to talk about in the beginning of your relationship, it’s a sign that it’s the wrong relationship. End of story. However, it’s inevitable that as the relationship progresses, there will be instances where the two of you have gaps in communication. This is normal as long as the quiet gaps don’t feel awkward. On the other hand, if silence makes you or your partner feel awkward and you are constantly trying to think of ways to keep the conversation going, there’s a good chance the relationship won’t last.
8. You have no shared interests. While it’s healthy for a couple to have individual interests, it is also healthy for them to have shared interests. If you and your partner seem to like completely different things, it may be time to reevaluate the relationship.
7. You don’t see eye to eye on anything. While it’s perfectly normal to disagree about certain things, if you cannot agree on anything, it is a serious red flag. Think about it, if you want to live in a mansion and your partner wants to live in a log cabin, or you don’t believe in spanking your future children but your partner is adamant about spanking — see where we’re going here. On a positive note, you and your partner can learn to compromise on certain issues, just be aware that compromising only goes so far when you initially can’t seem to agree on anything.
6. Are you terrified of being alone, or do you feel alone or wish that you could be alone when spending time with your guy or gal? Often times, people stay in a relationship (even though the relationship doesn’t make them happy,) out of fear that leaving the relationship means that they will spend the rest of their life alone. At the other end of the spectrum is the feeling of being alone, even though your partner may be right next to you. Lastly, if you have an overwhelming desire to be alone while in the company of your significant other, just admit it … it’s over.
5. Are you dating someone who spends most of their time obsessing about every little thing you say or do? If so, you should evaluate the relationship and determine what, if anything it adds to your life. After all, no one deserves to be analyzed constantly or put under a microscope.
4. Everything that goes wrong is always your fault. If your partner always finds a way to turn things on you during an argument, or if somehow every fight you are in is always your fault, be weary of this relationship. Of course couples disagree and get into arguments every once in a while, but if this happens on a regular basis, and if your partner always blames you for the latest fight, this is probably not the kind of relationship you want to stay in.
3. Have you ever heard the saying, “A woman marries a man hoping he will change, but he doesn’t. A man marries a woman thinking she won’t change, but she does?” If so, you should seriously think about the meaning before taking the next step in the relationship. As in, if you’re still waiting for your partner to change, we wish you well with that. Chances are it’s not going to happen. If you can’t accept your significant other for who they are, it’s time to move on.
2. You don’t feel respected and/or valued … or worse, you feel like more of a possession of your partners, rather than an actual person. If you feel this way the majority of the time, leave the relationship.
1. Your partner is mentally or physically abusive. Sometimes, a person needs to read or hear these words in order to take the initiative to get out of a bad/abusive relationship. If you are being abused mentally or physically, you know you deserve better than that. Know that being abused is not your fault, and there is no reason to feel ashamed or embarrassed. Leaving the relationship is the right decision, and you won’t be able to heal and/or have a better life until you break away from your abuser.
-Nichole Jaworski, CBS Charlotte